Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Transition... Can adding one to one be that hard?

Yes... It really can. I was talking with a friend of mine who is another mom in transition - from one child to two - and the trend seems to be going from zero to one is hard, going from one to two can be like trying to move mountains and after that it's a breeze. I cannot speak of the breeze part yet but the mountains around our house can be quite large at times.

I think that bath nights ate the most difficult right now. Once the girls can be tossed in the tubbies together I imagine it will be a lot easier.

I know that I am part of the mountain though. I can get frustrated with E quickly because I expect more from her - even though I should not. When I look at her especially when she is asleep I see this big girl who I struggle to pick up compared to little peanut R. But I have to keep reminding myself that E is still a baby well a toddler and deserves to be treated like one - expectations just not super high expectations.

Fortunately my mother in law and my mom have given us a break but at the end of most days parenting for 2 is a game changer. I have no idea how twin parents survive but they do so I know even our most difficult days are really not as challenging as we think


  1. I found your blog about a month ago and I enjoyed your post tonight. My toddler turned two on the 15th and our newest was born on the 11th of this month. I definitely feel like some mountains are being moved around here as well especially since my toddler is sick right now ugh! Also my toddler is having trouble adjusting to life with two many more tantrums lately which is frustrating and not the kid I know! Thanks for your insights! I appreciate that someone else is in the same boat!

  2. Kate - E was battling a cold when R was born and I was totally freaking out about E giving R the cold - which eventually spread through the house but was not as horrible as I thought it would be. Tantrums are not fun which is why we are very adamant about timeouts when they are happening but doing things that are only 'special' to E - like riding her cycle or doing her puzzle. Our peds said that the older siblings need to know that they are getting specially attention with the new baby commanding so much of parents attention...

    Thanks for reading!


  3. Yes! As a mother of three going on four (all in four years), I can attest it becomes a breeze especially after you give yourself more of a break with numbers three and up. Best of luck ladies :) Kym

  4. Kym - How do you get out of the door with 3 (soon do be four) little ones?!?!? I find that to be one of my biggest challenges